Leading From The Heart

by Tracy Rosen, teaching & consulting since 1996, blogging about it here since 2007. All views are my own and you should take them with a grain of salt, I do.

Category: Connecting

  • Day in a Sentence – Fitting it all in

    The other day I asked you all how you fit everything you need in to your life. Based on the responses, it seems the most important thing is to remember to pause and to remember what is important in everything we do. Things like family, quiet time, finding what is good. It’s not about scheduling and organizing, but about breathing and appreciating.

    Here is what you had to say:

    Linda704 – I’m still trying to figure that one out, but I find that regular exercise helps me feel better about myself, which makes a difference in my productivity.

    Cheryl Oakes – Live each day making the lasting memories, it won’t be the test you made, it won’t be the bulletin board, it will be the conversations and connections.

    Sheryl A. McCoy – When I care for my own needs, I’m present to consider the needs of others, so I look to myself as a window on the world.

    Bonnie K – It’s a very thoughtful prompt and reminds me of a time when I worried about the anger of boys suffering from the divorce of parents, the pressures from friends etc. It’s not just the things we have to manage but the tension from everything. As I retired, people started noticing how relaxed I looked, it was because of the pressure to get to everything more than the list of things I had to do. Life is easier when you have the control to choreograph your own day, week, life. It’s so hard when you feel that you don’t have that control. I think the pressure is just increasing, and I think we need to create spaces to breathe, yoga,etc.

    Mary in Missouri – Breath, prioritize, family people first, duties later. Some things just will not get attention today-like dusting.

    Lynne Culp – We try, in our daily way, to move the world.

    Gail Desler – Tracy’s post has led me back to a question that I often wonder about and that most recently stems from my work in Title I schools: How do we bottle up resiliency and pass it on to those most in need?

    Kate – I have made peace with imperfection; doing so allows me to sleep at night.

    Aram Kabodian – Tracy,
    Your rant rang true for me. I’ve had those days as a 7th grade teacher, too. Somehow, we laugh or sing or write our way out of those moments. Here’s my sentence:

    The days are long and I’m an early riser, so the 15 minute power nap is one tool that helps my quality of life later in the evening.

    Aram

    Mike – Hi Tracey… hope this finds you well……

    “Things which matter most must never be at the mercy of things which matter least”
    Goethe

    ” The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time” ( James Taylor)

    be well… mike

    Gail P – You have given us plenty to reflect on during an especially hectic time of year. I like hearing you talk about “time to breathe.” We chase our tails into a real frenzy but always do best when we take things down a notch, breathe, reflect, and get organized, all the while maintaining a friendly attitude. So my sentence is:

    We can’t do it all, at least not well, so lets cut ourselves some slack and enjoy our moments of smiles throughout the day.

    Cynthia Calvert – Finding “Cynthia” time and then giving myself permission to not have to finish a daunting task in one fell swoop allows me to breathe and get more accomplished than when I allow myself to become overwhelmed with all I must do before I go to bed.

    Amanda – Since I pretty well stink at maintaining balance, I’ll talk about one of the little moments I had recently that helped reinvigorate me. In the library I inquired about a student’s recent vacation and learned that she had made a movie about it. She said, “Yeah, you know how we did that story thing last year. I just did that, but um, I didn’t record my voice because that would be weird.” I’ll take it! Something from the classroom becoming part of her “real” life…you bet I’ll take it!

    Nancy – I remind myself, there is only one of me, only 24 hours in a day but many days going forward to get everything done.

    Kevin Hodgson – Life swirls around me as holidays and standardized progress reports (new this year!) loom right before me, but my wife and kids are always right there in tight focus — as they should be. Kevin

    Heather Mason – I don’t know how to fit it all in, but I know that I have to recognize the small blessings as they come (the way my daughter thinks she’s a dinosaur, the quiet compliments my students give, the Christmas lights starting to go up in my neighborhood) since waiting for the big ones can really burn a person out.

    Lynn Jacobs – Journal writing, taking photos, and walks along the riverside at sunset help me stay balanced.

    Thank you so much for these thoughtful responses. It was wonderful to read them as they came into my inbox over the week.

    Until next time,
    Breathe. Live. Love.

  • Call for sentences – fitting in what’s important

    Welcome to this week’s call for sentences, which will be collected right here in the comments section of this post. For this week only, the comments on my blog will be moderated so the sentences will be kept secret until I  collate and publish them this coming Sunday, December (holy moly it’s December!) 6th.

    December 6th is a significant date for me. It is on that date, exactly 20 years ago, that a man went into a classroom at the Ecole Polytechnique, the engineering school affiliated with L’Universite de Montreal and shot 28 people. He killed 14 women, injured 10 more women and 4 men. He systematically separated the women from the men to kill them. He finished the evening by killing himself. We know why he did it. He did it because he was angry at the women for studying engineering. He called it an anti-feminist protest.

    This past summer a man went into a fitness centre in Pennsylvania and killed 3 women before killing himself. Again, we know that this was a man who was angry with women.

    I wasn’t expecting to write about Dec. 6, there is something about writing out that date that seems almost sacred, maybe it affects me more because I was a university student at a Montreal university myself at the time. I remember feeling very very vulnerable.

    Now I teach children who are about to start their post-secondary lives and I see the way that the girls are treated by many of the boys, the way that the music that plays in the hallways talks about girls, the ways that boys use words about women and their body parts to call each other out – to make each other feel weak and impotent.

    I teach Art, Ethics, Contemporary World Issues, History of Quebec and Canada, and Leadership. There is so much for me to orchestrate in getting the curriculum to my students in the short time we have together but I know that the curriculum per se is not the most important work I do with them. More importantly I want to make sure I teach them an understanding of the world they live in, how it’s not cool to hate women (or Native people, or Jewish people, or any other kind of person) and how to realize that sometimes (most of the time) its not even something we are aware of doing.

    My students also have their own individual needs, individual stories that need attending to . That absolutely need attending to before learning can happen. (as do all students that we all teach, in every classroom) No money, abuse, illness, sadness, fear, separation, self-medication – I hate the fact that I can go on.

    On top of all of that, I have things in my own life that I need to fit in to the day-to-day in order to keep my sanity, to be happy. My own schoolwork, my health, a new relationship, my dogs and cat, a new house with all of the responsibilities attached to it, remembering to send gifts to my niece and nephew for their 3rd birthday (which I forgot to do), getting together with friends, painting, knitting, reading, writing, laughing, running.

    So many things to fit in! How do you do it? (finally getting to the call for sentences :)) How do you fit in what is important and necessary for your, as my late Great Aunt used to say, virtuosity?

    Here is mine:

    A good night’s sleep and an early morning gives me time to breathe and think before the day fills up on its own – I need more of that so that this doesn’t happen.

    Tracy

  • Not-live Blogging – Alfie Kohn, at QPAT Convention 2009

     

    (read the beginning of my last post, also about a QPAT convention speaker, for an explanation of the whole not-live blogging thing)

     

    Apparently there has been a provincial teacher’s association convention in Quebec every year since sometime in the 1800s. I did not know this.

     

    It is interesting that Alfie Kohn is speaking tonight to teachers of a system who are fed up with grades. More on that later, he’s taking the podium.

     

    And he starts – “Merci, bonsoir… and the remainder is in English. “

     

    radical questions. The latin root of radical is root. He’s not afraid of radical questions, they are root questions.

     

    He speaks of our fascination with grades. Switching from percentages to 5 point ranges and back to percentages again, and having a myriad of committee meetings and debates around the shifts. He calls this a ‘sideshow’ at the end of the presentation. We get so bogged down in the minutiae that we forget to ask fundamental questions:

     

    Why are we grading our students?

    Why are we giving our students homework?

     

    We see children/parents/teachers frustrated and fighting. We see children becoming less and less interested in learning as a result of homework, I’d add as a result of grading as well. It also gives more work to busy teachers. We give mindless homework (busy work), or homework that is too hard and then we have to deal with discipline and correcting whether it is done or not.

     

    For the most part, I give little homework. Work leaves my room when it isn’t done in the room during the time allotted for it. Difference is, my students do their ‘homework’ with me after school, at least those ones who did not get the work done during class time. Some (ok, most) who stay with me on a regular basis do it by choice. They have more of my time and focus after school. Those kids who are having a hard time with homework have so far chosen to not stay after school. I’ve got a feeling that, after term 1 parent/teacher interviews, this practice may change.

     

    No study to the best of his knowledge has found any benefit whatsoever of homework for kids before high school.

     

    Even at the high school level, at best, the research is correlative. It doesn’t mean that kids did well academically because they did homework. Once other variables are added in (quality of curriculum, motivation, etc…) the correlation disappears.

     

    I’d even add that after rich learning the brain needs a sleep in order to let the learning take. Our brains continue to work on what we learn after the learning happens. Reserve our classes as sites of rich learning (and not sites of squabbling and discipline related to homework done or not) and let evening time be a time to allow learning to set.

     

    Not only that but when work is sent home, how do you know it is the student who does it? There is so much stress around homework that often parents end up doing it.

     

    Question we are asked to discuss in pairs or small groups ? Why does research fail to support the belief that homework is not beneficial to learning?

     

    There is no data that homework is character building.

    Teaches self-discipline – is this always true? No.

    Responsibility? How? This might come if kids decided whether or not to have homework and what kind and when it is due and why.

     

    These are non-academic characteristics. They don’t stand up on their own and there is no research that supports them.

     

    Homework as home/school connections. Aren’t there so many other ways to do this that are more beneficial, fun, connecting? Make a phone call, invite parents in for activities, on field trips, etc…

     

    So why do we put up with homework?

    He says because 1) we don’t trust children to use their free time positively so we make sure they have as little of it as possible.

     

    There IS research to support that when individual teachers stop giving homework the quality of their work is same or better. Relieved of the responsibility to do worksheets, chapter readings, they seek out knowledge that interests them. Or they actually have the time to relax, that gives their brains a chance to recuperate.

     

    1. data-driven, test score raising culture

    2. those most into homework understand least about how people learn.

      1. The more you practice something the less thinking is happening!! We need to worry about this!

     

    Psychologists will tell us that what predicts outcomes is not the homework but the motivations and goals and aspirations that students have.

     

    He’s not saying never give homework. He’s saying change the default. We should give it only on those occasions when a given assignment will have benefit to most kids in a class. Or. Does all homework have to be the same for all kids? I at times give specific tasks to specific kids, depending on what I think is beneficial for that student. That extends a particular learning that kid just made, that will make him/her think more deeply and become more excited about what we are learning.

     

    I’m getting tired. My notes may slow down. Been here since 8:30 this morning. It’s now 9:10. (He’s gone over time). My poor dogs have been home alone since 6:45 am. Even if I left this minute I wouldn’t be home until 10:30 or so. That is way too long for them to be alone. What is even worse is this is day #2 since we had parent/teacher interviews last night. Poor boobs.

     

    When you lose marks for not doing homework you are being graded on behaviour, not on your learning. It is a classroom that is really about compliance, not about learning.

     

    Every study that has ever looked at the effects of grades on the motivation to learn demonstrates a negative effect on kids and learning. Research finds that when you get rid of grades kids spontaneously pick harder things to do with their spare time. When they know a grade is attached they will choose something less challenging but more likely to provide them a higher grade.

     

    Yet, we live in the circus sideshow of the QEPs evaluation and reporting system. How would you make a shift away from the sideshow?

     

    Ok. He’s now 30 minutes over time. I may have to walk out. I’m so tired I can’t stop moving my legs. Restless, in need of rest but can’t for at least another 75 minutes. oy.

     

    His own summary of his ideas – I don’t care how motivated our students are, I care how they are motivated. Using grades as a reward is extrinsic motivation. Learning situations that are intrinsically rewarded are the motivations we are looking for. Extrinsic motivators drive down intrinsic motivation.

     

    Idea – ticks and pluses to record my observations throughout the term. Throughout the term, have student meetings to determine how they are doing. They grade themselves. Keep notes and hand them in to my principal instead of my grade book at the end of term.

  • Not-live blogging: Understanding the Teen Brain or ‘Teen Whispering’

     

    This could also be subtitled ‘my journey from negative to positive head space through frustration to futility and emergent adaptation and integration’. This will make more sense as you read through these notes. It’s a long post. But I came to some aha moments throughout and definitely at the end in terms of PD design.

    Anything in plain text or italics is mine. Bold text is straight note-taking.


    You’d think that an educator’s convention would have wireless networking capabilities. But no. hence the title ‘Not-live blogging’.

     

    I am at a pre-convention activity of the 2009 Quebec Provincial Association of Teachers (QPAT) annual teachers’ convention. It is a day long session called Understanding the Teen Brain, presented by Eva de Gosztonyi, the coordinator for the Center of Excellence for Behaviour Management (no website), which has as its motto “Building the capacity of the English school boards of Quebec”.

     

    Did I mention ‘presented’? Ok. I should give it a chance, she is just saying her intro, but we walked into a room with a powerpoint on the screen at its front and rows of tables lined up through its girth.

     

    Oh, the day is subtitled

     

    Becoming a Child Whisperer. Learning to read the language of youth.

     

    Wow.

     

    Great. She just said ‘I don’t have a lot of experience in high schools,’ Somehow this was advertised for Secondary school teachers despite that.

     

    Keep an open mind. Breathe.

     

    Her approach is based on Neufeld. She is going to be reviewing his work.

    • Developmental psychologist

    • Hold on to your Kids: Why parents need to matter more than peers.

     

    Maturation is a process – ‘ages and stages’. (Are there still people who don’t know this? Do we need to be going over this? )

     

    Oh. I should have prefaced this with some context. It took me an hour and 45 minutes to get to work on Monday, during which time I developed a sickness. I spent an hour or so at work going over IEPs with my colleagues, then went home where I slept for 2 days. Yesterday I went back to school in the morning, still pretty exhausted, and ended my day at 9:00 with the last of the parent/teacher interviews. Got home at almost 10:30, then had to get back in the car at 6 this morning to battle traffic to get onto the island during rush hour traffic.

     

    So I need to be wowed (and in a different way than how the day’s subtitle wowed me.)

     

    Vulnerability – we need to be able to tolerate a feeling of vulnerability, openness ? trust in the process.

     

    (ok, maybe I need to practice some of this today)

     

    Attachment is what allows for vulnerability and maturation

     

    She needs to know that when a workshop is advertised as geared towards high school educators she should NOT give elementary school examples. I know from experience (from both designing/facilitating and attending workshops) that high school teachers are touchy on that subject. A lot of PD is generally given to elementary school teachers. There is bitterness around this. Too often this happens, that a session is described as responding to needs of HS teachers but actually gives examples from elementary.

     

    Teen Brain is under construction and so it is messy, like a construction site. (is she going to be talking at us all day?)

     

    Deborah Yurgelen Todd (2002) adults and teens differ in how they view emotions. (Am I being too tough? But come on. I participated in a workshop 5 years ago, maybe more, that focused on these issues)

     

    Amygdala, frontal cortex yada yada.

     

    Crap. I just flipped to the back and checked out the Suggested Readings slide. There is nothing new on it.

     

    Interesting statement – “the whole educational system in Quebec is developmentally unsound.” (Eva de Gosztonyi, today)

     

    bases this on idea of teen reactions coming straight from amygdala (gut) and not yet developed to use of frontal cortex (reasoning) and that Quebec’s education program is centered on the development of reasoning skills.

     

    Is this based solely on cognitive development? A person’s development is not solely based on brain science as an independent variable. Culture. Gender. Race. Language. Nurture.

    Whose brains have been examined in this research?

     

    (Jay Giedd) Bunch of stuff on grey matter development , pruning process. Steinberg talks about the burst of energy that is given to the brain in order to start the pruning process.

    This is the explanation our presenter uses for teens need of so much sleep. Again, asked and answered your honour, about, oh, 10 years ago.

     

    (Just rebooted. Was able to get a wireless connection. When I tried to use it I was asked for a credit card number from the Palais des Congres. Come on QPAT!)

     

    ******* Ok. Eva just exposed some assumptions. –> we know where stuff is. Even when it is in piles on our desks someone can ask, where is x and we can locate x. Statement —> of course it would be better if we could actually organize it in a filing system.

     

    I’ve tried filing systems. I am less creative. I am less willing to take chances. Ergo this is not better for me. I have seen this in students as well. Is this research based on the assumption that filing system type organization skills are the ideal? I may sound like I am joking here, but I am not.

     

    Brain develops from Cerebellum to Frontal Lobe (executive function). ‘ADHD is a frontal lobe disorder’

     

    She is stating, as if it is a eureka moment, that knowledge and application are not the same thing.

     

    Ok. Let me be fair with some constructive notes

     

    Risk taking – an interaction between 2 brain networks. When emotion goes up, cognitive reasoning goes down.

    • Socio-Emotional Network – increased emotion in presence of peers

    • Cognitive Control Network

     

    Learning – when you need to talk with a student, don’t do it in front of peers.

     

    It’s 10:15. Still two and a half hours until lunch…

     

    I gave similar workshops at BJEC. I was not expecting to see the same workshop as I did when I saw her speak a few years ago. A few YEARS ago. I was looking forward to learning something new. Maybe linking this kind of thing to culture and socio-economic background?

    Have links been made between culture and neuro-cognitive science?

    Help them make up for what the brain lacks by providing

    structure, organized time, guidance for tough decisions, patience and love (Giedd)

     

    Children should not be put with peers until age of 12. Gives example that children were not put together until the Industrial Revolution.

     

    This is VERY European centric. Native cultures successfully had independent children, with tasks needed for the survival of their communities. It is when Europeans came here that they were determined to be wild and needed to be disciplined. This discipline happened in Residential schools.

    Is the answer to recognize the specific tasks children can provide to our communities and allow them to fulfill them?

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    I’m really hungry and can’t focus. We need a break. It’s going to happen at 10:45. Why do breaks always seem to happen late so that that the last 15 minutes before it happens is spent thinking about the break?

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    There is a believer in front of me. Every time a statement is made she murmurs, yup, yup, mmm-hmm, that’s right.

    process of maturation

    Attachment (to a parent/caring adults) – Emergence (time to reflect, test things out, become yourself) – Integration (functioning in society)

     

    I asked earlier if she would be talking at us all day. 1 hour 48 minutes in –> Yup.

    I’m jumping out of my skin. I have been sitting in one spot for almost 2 hours. Listening. Good thing I brought this laptop at least I am keeping my fingers moving.

     

    …Post-morning break…

    Ok. I got the skinny from some convention organizers. There is no wireless access for us because it was too expensive for them to purchase for our use. I told them it was unfortunate. The only ed conference I have been to in the last, oh at least 5 years, without access to internet. That they should work that into their working budget or change venues to a place that doesn’t charge so much for internet access. Very unfortunate.

     

    Neufeld, Attachment Theory.

     

    There has been a lot written on this. Here’s a link for Gordon Neufeld. Basically attachment is needed for the maturation process. When adults are not present they create attachments with whoever is – their peers. So peers provide the guidance for each other. Guidance needed for growth and integration. When there is constant interaction with peers there is no chance for emergence.


    • Peer orientation is devastating for kids

    • Peer attachment doesn’t protect from separation, shame, and alarm

     

    Another note about the break. I bumped into a teacher I used to work with at Weston. She loves this and thinks that all high school teachers need to participate in a workshop like this. So maybe it’s me. A combination of I’m tired and hungry (there’s no food here!) and I’ve already learned/studied/practiced the theories and strategies she is presenting. Frustrating that people who provide PD for teachers do not differentiate.


    Oh, and now I’ve had to move my listening centre to the seat next to the believer in order to access the plug to charge my notebook. Lordy, lordy.


    I wonder when she first made these slides. I’m sure I’ve seen a few them before.


    In order to adapt we need our feelings of frustration to turn to feelings of futility. We know when this happens when we see tears.


    Tears as an effective way to get rid of the chemicals of action and replace them with chemicals of thinking. Sweating will also get rid of the toxins – boys and men tend to choose this option. A social construction.


     

    *********** Research shows that if you feed the tears of rats who have gone through a frustration –> futility process it can kill them due to the number of toxic chemicals present in the tears.

    Have got to look for this research.

     

    Emergence

    • Adaptive processes – I would like to try something new, realize it’s a bit too much so I adapt to something different

    • Integrative processes – I need to be successful at something (math) in order to achieve a goal (graduation) so I integrate other processes (like being polite, keeping my frustrations in check) in order to achieve success

     

    Stuckness –> when we don’t adapt or integrate

    • happens because of Sensitivity X Stress

      • genetics, pre/peri-natal stressors, separation, shame, alarm

     

    ha ha ha. I’ve moved beyond frustration to futility and have started to adapt and integrate in order to reach my goal ? taking notes to keep sane. Maybe that is why the believer yups and mmm-hmmms.

    Don’t teach aggressive children anger management skills. If they can not integrate they will feel shame for something they can not apply. (find out who said this and what she offers to do instead)

     

    Trouble with the QEP is it assumes the only reason kids aren’t interested in learning is because we haven’t made it interesting enough.

     

    I think kids are interested in learning when we show an interest in them ? love and patience. That is how we make it interesting. So, yeah, they are right

     

    Defensive, immature teens –> They are defending themselves against vulnerabilities. They are protecting themselves.

    • These are the kids who need us the most.

     

    So now we are given a think, pair, share activity. At 12:30. 15 minutes before lunch. 3 and a half hours after we started sitting and listening. Wow (another non-wow wow). Brilliant design.

     

    …After lunch…

     

    Attachment is about creating good relationships

    • hierarchical arrangement

      • adult takes care of child, acts with natural authority

    • renders endearing and tolerant

      • when you find a kid you don’t like the problem is not them, it is you. You have fallen out of attachment and you need to figure out why.

    • Creating a sense of home

      • comfort, rest, place of retreat

    • Our brain can tolerate stuff that is scary when we are in safe attachment (Coan, 2006)

      • we feel less pain (Dunbar, Cohen, Ejsmond-Frey, 2009)

     

    Ok. So I dig attachment theory. It makes sense. Now that I have eaten and had a coffee and a bit of a walk-about I am no longer taking notes to keep my sanity, but to record and remember and remind myself why I teach. As a speaker she has warmed up as well. Maybe she also needed coffee and food.

     

    Our job as adults in attachment is to be the compass point (There is no accident that our alternative program is called Directions and has a compass as its logo!)

     

    –> Our biggest problem right now is that our kids scan the environment and choose their peers (other immature kids) as their compass points.

     

    It doesn’t matter what we do but who we are to the kids that counts.

    Our relationship with children is very tenuous, we must always take care to protect the relationship.

     

    Senses –> be with, spend a lot of time with

    Sameness –> discover interests and share them

    Belonging and Loyalty –> trust level. You can up the ante and kids will still believe you will take care of them.

    Significance –> they want to believe you spend time thinking about them

    Being known –> we want to believe that someone will love us just the way we are.

    Engaging Attachment Instincts

    1. Friendly acknowledgment , validation– catching eyes, smiles, nods, morning greetings.

    2. Provide something to hold on to – a common bond, not praise that is conditional on performance. We need to have points of relationships that have nothing to do with academics. I acknowledge the part of you that has nothing to do with academics.

    3. Invite the student to depend on you – reaching out, reassure, come back to check in

     

    Strategies

     

    Maximize attachment

    minimize effects of immaturity

    Build a village of attachment

    Minimize the effects of peers

     

    Simple solutions

    • remember names

    • provide a students with a pencil/calculator/eraser/paper when she needs it

    • feeding (pie :) )

    • caring in unexpected ways

    • listen with full attention

    • “Help me to understand” – acknowledge existence

    • Meet at the bus

    • 10 x 2 strategy – for 10 days find some way to spend a couple of minutes a day with a kid (walking in the halls, waiting in line at the caf, … )

    • attachment homebase – our den in Directions

     

    We have to collect our kids before we can direct them.

     

    Make it easy for kids to focus on the teacher

    -desk arrangement, proximity

     

    With-it-ness –> eyes on the back of your head. Kids want to know that you know what’s going on.

    (Good & Brophy 2003)

     

    If you are limited by time

    • focus on a few, the leaders, the apha kids.

    • Create attachments

    ….post-workshop….

    There were many complaints that we spent 9-2:40 on theory and then 20 minutes on strategies. Everyone wanted the strategies. It’s my experience that this happens often in workshops like these. Teachers  are promised strategies but never really get to see what they look like. The issue is that presenters feel that in order to understand the strategies we need to know the theory, which I can understand. So, either stop promising to deliver strategies if there is a time constraint OR redesign how theory is presented. Most of the teachers at workshops like this are already open to the theory. They get it. So a) send out a pre-test of sorts (we all registered by a Nov. 5th deadline) and figure out what we know about about the theory already so that the didactic element can be lessened or the design can be differentiated if there is a wide range of prior knowledge in the room, b) re-envision how theory is presented. I had an idea as I was walking out. What if we started with the end? Start with strategies and then fit the theory in as it is needed. Ex. Some strategies are to make eye contact, to smile, to ask about specific non-school related interests. Why? Because attachment theory teaches us that it is important to feel known, to be validated and accepted for who we are as people beyond school in order to create a yearning to learn with and perhaps even perform for adults and then ultimately for ourselves. This way our presenter could have validated our interests and experiences as people in order to make us want to really learn with her.

     

     

     

     

     

  • Pearls need discomfort, right?

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    “Those that have survived such perils of the sea as typhoons, suffocating red tides, and attacks from predators are brought ashore and opened. if everything has gone well, the result is a lovely, lustrous and very valuable pearl.” Click image for source.

    Yesterday after work I was typing up a commitment contract with our head teacher, Lynn, for one of our students. We had had a day. I remarked that it’s like that in Alternative – each day is ‘a day’ – and that is what makes our jobs more interesting – every day is different and exciting.

    We joked about that for a while and then I said but seriously, even though they can be trying in the moment, it’s responding to the varied situations and the behaviours/needs of our kids that makes me a better teacher. It’s on the job professional development. I feel I learn so much each day about relationship, caring, learning. Lynn responded – better teacher? It makes me a better person.

    Thought that pearl was worth showing in the light.